“A journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step.” Lao Tzu
Your habit has become a problem for you. So far you have been successful at concealment, but it is getting more and more difficult to hide. You have resolved to stop so many times and failed. How do you start to stop once and for all?
If you have ever read “Bridget Jones Diary,” you know she recorded events in painful and embarrassing detail. This is your first step – writing exactly what you do and when you do it. Everything matters as you write. Your shame based habit/behavioral addiction will attempt to convince you that this or that doesn’t matter. It will tell you not to be so silly as to be bothered by “that” whatever “that” might be. Resolve to tell that voice to keep still and write as if everything that matters to you matters. Why? Because it is important for you to start thinking that you matter.
After you have kept the diary for a period of time, read it over. Look for what is missing in your life and your relationships. It may be a sense of personal pride missing. It may be meaningful friendships. It may be a sense of worthiness (to be loved, to be cared for). Once you see what is missing, decide to change.
Once you decide to change, understand that the world will be happy to help you. Change means reaching out and the internet is a perfect place to reach out. Find a website, find an online support group – read and participate. Finally, you have broken through the isolation! You are on your way!
“The way to get started is to quit TALKING and begin DOING”
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