The first thing to do is make an appointment for a physical. You want to be certain that there is nothing going to hold you back. You need energy and vitality to put towards your recovery. Don’t let low blood sugar or high blood pressure or mono sabotage your chances of success.
Next thing to do is find the right therapist. The right therapist will know about BFRDs and when you leave the first appointment you will have two things. The first thing you want from a competent therapist is an action plan. You do not have to understand yourself to change. You have to change to change. Understanding follows change-not the other way around.
By the second or third appointment you will have a quit day in writing on a calendar. It will be a few months away. In between you will have some trial runs of increasing length – you will prepare to succeed. You will reassess your activities with an open mind. You may have to slow down or drop an activity in order to succeed at quitting. You don’t want a lack of sleep or a packed schedule to sabotage your success.
You will prepare to feel worse before you feel better. You may get a pink cloud right after Quit Day, but soon your old shame-based thoughts and feeling will try to sabotage your success. Prepare for them so you can argue with them – be your own best defense attorney.
Plan to quit and work the plan – you are moving out of your comfort zone and leaving old ways of thinking and being behind. Real freedom